This week marks 1 year since we found out we were pregnant. I never expected that a year one I would be where I am now. No baby, not pregnant and now seeing a fertility specialist, with the notion that we need IVF becoming more of a reality with every passing month.
But I don’t know why I am worrying because according to the pregnancy oracles that I’m surrounded by, all I need to do is stop thinking about it and it will happen! If only someone had told me sooner I could have saved myself over 2 years of heartache and disappointment. I know deep down they mean well, but it is so patronising. How on earth does anyone expect you to stop thinking about the one think you want the most in the world, the one think that you so nearly had but was cruelly snatched away from you? Telling me not to think about it is like telling me not to breathe. It’s just not possible. Yes, I am trying not to obsess about it each month, with ovulation tests, charting my temperature, over analysing every single twinge, odd smell, weird feeling etc. All that has now stopped and I am trying to be more relaxed, but still there are no signs of that elusive BFP. Maybe it’s not as simple as just not thinking about it.
However, despite my feelings, I just nod and smile sweetly when people feel the need to share their little pearls of wisdom, because no-one wants to witness the crazy fertility challenged lady melt down when people are just trying to be nice.
Hopefully one day I will be able to share my own pearls of wisdom, but ones based on fact and scientific evidence, that hopefully wont make others feel like a failure.
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